tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19268887.post2339281663336025820..comments2024-03-17T18:44:03.058+11:00Comments on Lazy Luddite Log: SharingDanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12710148812664294219noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19268887.post-27655206260658491712009-03-27T15:25:00.000+11:002009-03-27T15:25:00.000+11:00To BelindaThe disincentives of government policies...<EM>To Belinda</EM><BR/><BR/>The disincentives of government policies are a problem. The age-of-independence was once lower than it is now so that is a problem. The fact that one can be assessed on parental income even if one is supporting oneself is a problem.<BR/><BR/>Parental disapproval extends back a long way. I remember getting a bit of "what is the matter with your home" stuff once I decided to move.<BR/><BR/>And then of course there is the issue of problematic housemates and you have been very unlucky in that regard. By the time I had dodgy housemates I had already had decent ones so had better experiences to sustain me.<BR/><BR/><EM>To Lizzie</EM><BR/><BR/>You and I have both been lucky. I find the fallback plan an interesting suggestion. I guess for me the only fallback plan was returning home.<BR/><BR/><EM>To Amanda</EM><BR/><BR/>The expectation one stays home till partnering is a strong one - moreso for men than women and I also suspect moreso for persons of recent migrant origins.<BR/><BR/><EM>To Jac</EM><BR/><BR/>Yes the financial crisis might make sharing more attractive. It may also make staying with the family more attractive too. But they do say frugal is to make a comeback. Some of us never stopped.<BR/><BR/><EM>To David</EM><BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by and contributing to an ostensibly non-political topic. I agree with you and others here that sharing is difficult because we are all different and habits and preferences are important to us and compromise can be tricky.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12710148812664294219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19268887.post-79870858270248101952009-03-26T13:15:00.000+11:002009-03-26T13:15:00.000+11:00In my view, living with other people is always a c...In my view, living with other people is always a challenging experience. I have lived with my parents, in a share household as a student, and then with two wives/girlfriends. The interesting thing about my share household was that I brought a friend along and lived with four other people I did not know anything about at all. As it turned out, I got increasingly annoyed with what was supposedly a good friend of mine and over time preferred the company of most of the others. Some people just seem much nicer and more cooperative if you don't have to live with them! So it's an eye-opening experience. And even if you're in a relationship/marriage, the coordination of "household habits" is perhaps the most difficult and time-consuming part. I have now achieved cooperative and tranquil cohabitation habits with my wife, but I still experience certain advantages (as well as disadvantages of course) when staying alone in hotels, such as adjusting the air conditioner to 20C (rather than the 23C compromise I have to endure at home; my wife prefers 25C or maybe even higher).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19268887.post-58227434104453068242009-03-21T17:04:00.000+11:002009-03-21T17:04:00.000+11:00I currently live in a share house. I share with a ...I currently live in a share house. I share with a friend, and for about half the week his girlfriend is there.<BR/><BR/>Before that I cohabited with my partner. Before that I was at home with my parents.<BR/><BR/>I spent a long time at home with my family as they had the expectation that I would live there until I was fully financially independent, and preferrably on my way to marriage. I got out of home without the marriage, but ended up married anyway.<BR/><BR/>I'm currently quite enjoying my share house experience - my husband and myself could not afford to be living separately in two places, so this is definitely about economy. Its also good to be living in a house with someone, as I tend to get lonely easily.<BR/><BR/>All up, currently a win. I like it, but I don't think I could live with just anyone...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19268887.post-68010249763810944382009-03-21T16:41:00.000+11:002009-03-21T16:41:00.000+11:00I know the share house system has been excellent t...I know the share house system has been excellent to me. I was lucky, though - I had no choice but to leave home to go to uni, but I was able to stay in a residential hall at uni for a few years, and I made friends there who later became my housemates. So I was lucky to be able to move in with friends, and even luckier that they turned out to make good housemates as well! Our house has been stable for over three years now. <BR/><BR/>However, before my whole friendship group moved out of college, we each made sure that we had somewhere to run away to - some other house with friends in it - in case our own houses went bad. This actually happened to one guy, who became our de facto fourth housemate for a while. We were cool with that.<BR/><BR/>I think there's a lot of luck involved in the share house experience, and I can understand people hesitating before casting their fortunes to the wind. But I also think it's possible set up a decent fall-back plan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19268887.post-49703970722601852762009-03-20T13:59:00.000+11:002009-03-20T13:59:00.000+11:00Or, like myself, they accidentally ended up with a...Or, like myself, they accidentally ended up with an insane housemate on their first experience and are now unwilling to risk repeating it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15555042458307585618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19268887.post-54368795350161178402009-03-20T13:52:00.000+11:002009-03-20T13:52:00.000+11:00In my experience, there are a couple of other reas...In my experience, there are a couple of other reasons the new generation are not using share households as much. Families can disapprove (having your child in a share household can be frowned upon by their peers, especially in high income professions), and the difficulty of obtaining social security payments when under 24yrs old means that younger students have no safety net if they loose their job/become ill, making them afraid to branch out on their own.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15555042458307585618noreply@blogger.com